My Son's Siblings: A Queer Parent's Memoir on the Joys, Grief, and Ethics of Donor Conception

When my wife and I set out to start a family, we thought getting pregnant would be the hard part. We didn’t realize we were stepping into a secretive, ethically murky system: the world of donor conception. We chose a cryobank donor thinking we were making an informed decision. The reality was far more complicated. Today, my son is one of dozens of children—born to dozens of families—all connected by the same man: Donor 2XC89. My Son’s Siblings is my story of love, queerness, and reckoning. As a nonbinary, non-biological parent, I explore the questions that keep me up at night: How many children is too many from one donor? What do we tell our kids about the person who helped create them? And what do we owe each other, if anything? This book doesn’t claim to have answers—because often there aren’t any. Instead, it sits with the hard questions and looks for peace in the ambiguity, in the messy spaces where family, identity, and belonging are constantly being redefined.